So You’re Getting Married

I have some good news and some bad news.

First the good news: if approached correctly, married life will be the most glorious, blessed, and rewarding time spent with another person. Words are inept at trying to explain the love, the trust, and the respect that are developed in a successful marriage. Happy marriages deepen and get better with time.

Now the bad news: if not approached correctly, you have a 50 percent chance of getting a divorce. That doesn’t count marriages that don’t end in divorce but are not happy.

So now what? Consider this question:

What would the average person say is the number 1 cause of marital contention?

Here are the two most common answers:

· Money

· Infidelity

What would you think if you knew that neither money nor sex is the primary cause for contention within a marriage? In fact, they are only symptoms of the root cause.

The number 1 cause of marital contention is the inability to effectively communicate.

Effective communication is not taught in public or private schools and rarely discussed in our homes. In other words, the tools to a successful marriage are not taught at home or at school.

Getting married is the single greatest ‘Tipping Point’ in your life. Answer the following questions:

· How are you preparing to merge your way of thinking with your spouse’s way of thinking?

· What is your ‘Spending Plan?’

· How will you handle your first fight?

· Do you know what it’s like in a man cave?

· Have you ever seen a chick hut?

Before you spend tens of thousands of dollars on a singular event that gives you a 50% chance of success, consider investing some time, effort, and money into your future by developing communication tools that give you a very high probability of success for wealth and happiness.